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A month or so ago, I posed a question or two to you all regarding wedding business. I've been percolating an idea in my head for quite some time now, and thought I'd share it.

I think a perfect name for a party planning company would be Reality Check. I'd love to sit down with brides (and grooms) to be, listen to the "it's my day and I'll do what I want" speech, and then give them my 30-something Wedding Reality Check. I'd want to say things like:

  • Going into a house worth of debt for a party is a Bad Idea.

  • Planning a fantasy means that the fantasy won't actually be achieved.

  • If the day were really "all about you", you wouldn't be inviting people to share it.

  • Put twice as much energy into planning the marriage as you put into planning the wedding. It'll last longer.

  • Your future mother in law can be your friend or your enemy. The way in which you approach her during the planning will determine the nature of the relationship. Tread carefully.

  • When you choose to marry in a faith community, you choose to marry in faith community. With community rules and standards. That may clash with your fantasy (see above).

    • And, I'm sure, a host of other bits. Do I think that you should marry in sackcloth and ashes? Only if you're Catholic and have chosen Ash Wednesday or Good Friday as the ideal day to tie the knot. But there's nothing wrong with demonstrating a bit of restraint.

    Posted by KnitNut on February 27, 2006 11:31 PM |

    Comments

    does this mean no nipple tassles?

    ;)

    Posted by: ann | February 28, 2006 08:18 AM

    You are wise indeed. I always think , 'when I plan my wedding, NO ONE will tell me what to do'...but REALITY CHECK. you are so right!

    Maybe the whole sackcloth and ashes could be a new fashion trend. Less is more.

    Posted by: Carrie | February 28, 2006 08:45 AM

    That sounds like good advice to me! I'll keep it in mind if I ever actually need it . . .

    Posted by: --Deb | February 28, 2006 09:01 AM

    Also, planning to pay for your wedding with monetary gifts you receive for your wedding is a bad idea.

    Reality Check is a great idea, I wonder how many brides-to-be would leave the initial visit in tears?

    Posted by: Jenn | February 28, 2006 09:20 AM

    That was marvelous, m'dear! The number of people that could benefit from your sage advice is, well, innumerable.

    With all of that said, I hope you're having fun planning your special event.

    Please do keep sharing the lessons you learn along the way!

    Posted by: Teggin | February 28, 2006 10:40 AM